My name is Cora Coleman. I am 24 years old. I’m married to a wonderful man for what will be a year June 2012. I am the daughter to Bishop Jakes, and Serita Jakes. I didn’t write this blog for that. I wrote this blog because at the age of 23 I was diagnosed with infertility. I went to the web looking for young women my age that are going through this, and found nothing. At the age of 24 I went through my first IVF cycle, and it failed I was devastated. I was able to find wonderful women through my sisters blog sarahdhenson.com. I was able to find what I call my fertility sisters Jada, and Destiny without them I don’t think I would get through this. So I wrote this blog to reach out to all the women, but especially young women going through this journey to tell you that you are not alone, but besides that I wrote this blog to share with you all the struggles, and test that I go through everyday and my attempts to get through them. I hope you enjoy!!
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My dear Cora,
Thank you for this as am sure it will encourage lots of young ladies out there who may be experiencing the same or know someone who is..I pray that the good Lord who is no respector of persons would come through for you in Jesus’ name! Sharing your story is a step of faith and believe you me, it will be rewarded at the right time..God’s time!
Praying for you..
Thank you I appreciate your prayers and I know he will!!
Dear Cora. I am a nurse and have gone threw infertility treatments (IVF). I am 43 and my finance will not allow me to do anymore treatments. You are young and have time on your side. I know of young ladies who got there poly ovarian cyst under control and became pregnant. The fact is that you may have other options out their that will allow you to have a biological child with your husband. As for me time and finance are not working in my favor. So before you start feeling down please do some more research and don’t wait do it now why you are young. If I can be of any help don’t hesitate to ask. I have come to the conclusion that being a mother was not one of the blessing God had intended for me.
Tanya I am so sorry that you have come to that conclusion. I know that there will be mountains, valleys, and rivers that we have to go through, but you have to keep pushing. You said you came to the conclusion, but what conclusion did God come to. If He gave you a promise you need to stand on that. If you know in your heart you are meant to be a mother then search all the avenues possible. I’m adopting my daughter soon, and my husband and I haven’t had to pay for anything other then her needs, wants, and desires. I am not feeling down, and have been diligent with my husband, and have been trusting God. I have joy unspeakable joy about where I am in life. My mother had my baby brother at 40 going on 41. Celine Dion just had twins in her 40s. I was watching a documentary about 75 year old who had her daughters triplets. Some of those through fertility treatments, and some without. I have even read stories of 45 year old’s getting pregnant. I pray that you can hold onto joy for your promise if God before you then NOTHING can be against you. He did it for Sarah and He can do it for you. Be Blessed honey.
Dear Cora,
Thank you for sharing your story. You will touch a lot of women and encourage them so that they will know they are not alone.
I am so touched to know that you have faith! God shows no favortism so we can rejoice in knowing wha he did others he will do for you.
I am praying that he will bless you and your husband with as many bundles of joy that your hearts desire.
Be blessed and stay strong!
I believe God for just that and thank you for your prayers and support please spread the word!!
Cora,
I have been through the worst of the worst when it comes to infertility and staying pregnant. I know your struggle and I pray that GOD will hear your prays for a child. Since I was 20, I have had 8 pregnancy losses. I have had 5 first trimester losses, 2 second trimester losses and 1 stillbirth of twin boys. Even through all of this I am able to say that I am trusting God’s plan. I know this is a hard journey and to go through upsets makes you wonder why. I have a very mild case of PCOS. I was also told that the walls of my uterus were too thin to carry a child to term. I am currently in the process of writing a book and finishing my blog that details my journey to motherhood. The quest for motherhood and parenthood is sometimes scattered with obstacles. But as long as you don’t give up hope (faith), you will achieve what it is that you want the most. As we travel this journey trying to conceive (TTC), I will keep you in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Even now at 26yrs old, I still wonder why my journey has to be so hard. Your dad preached on purpose and they things that we go through are necessary steps that lead us to our purpose. Back when I was younger I didn’t understand this concept when it came to having a child, but now that I am older I know that I am going through these things for a reason.
God Bless you and your hubby!!!
Temesha
God bless you my fertility sisters may God shine a bright light on you and grant you the desires. Infertility is a battle but your story is going to change many lives sooner then you think. I pray God would heal all things that need to be healed and that he would carry you through every storm with an umbrella!!
Wow, your story is very similar to mine. I hope you are not offended, but it really feels good to be able to say that to someone… I am 32 married for 10yrs to my high school sweetie. We have been trying for a little over 6 yrs. I just had miscarriage #10 about 3 weeks ago and after seeing several specialists they have not been able to find a cause of the miscarriages. I too had a still birth. All other 9 losses have been in the 1st trimester. I am just happy to find a support group that is faith based and really is talking faith. God Bless your endeavors!
I have an infertility/ivf success testimony if you would like me to share but understand if you don’t. Let me know. Jere 29:11 Mahalo!
I would absolutely love you to share!!
Hello Cora,
I know this blog will be a blessing to others. I’d wished that there were reosurces like this, when I traveled my own infertility journey. Instead, I founded an empowerment and advocacy organization for women living with infertility – The RARE SOIL Project, http://www.raresoil.com. We are excited to add your blog to our list of resources.
God bless you.
L.A. Leconte
Thank you!! I appreciate you spreading the word and it’s my desire that young women are touched through my blog.
I have you covered in my prayers! You are a strong woman and thank you for what you’re doing.
Absolutely my pleasure thank you for reading do spread the word!!
This site has truly blessed me. You are not alone. I am 26 years old I’ve been married to my high school sweet heart for 7 yrs. I have been with out birth control for the past 4 yrs and we have not conceived. I had emergency surgery and was diagnosed with endometriosis at 18. My doctor said that it was the worst case she had every seen. Prior to surgery the doctors warned me that it might be cancer. Praise the Lord I came out cancer free. We will start fertility planning in April.
My heart was overjoyed when I seen this website. You are definately not alone.
I’m glad you found us. I’m standing with you, and Ive been praying for all my fertility sisters this is our year. May God walk you through this and you have all the success in the world..
This blessed me! I’m not infertile but your trial has helped me as I’m going through mine.. I’m excited to hear the next chapter to your story and what gods will will be for your life and weather you will be a mother to a child(ren) that come from your womb or a mother to a child(ren) that come from the hand of god! Either way its all in Gods plan and you’ve overcome already ! Again excited about the next chapter..Get ready.. Get ready.. Get ready!! Your believing sister Kris
Thank you!! I’m excited about my next chapter as well, and I know how ever my children come they’ll be loved and cared for and I can’t wait to enjoy them!!
Hi Cora
Your blog is a real blessing to me. Both my fallopian tubes are blocked and my only option is IVF. We had our first IVF in November 2007 which was a success – we have a beautiful 3 year old girl. We are now preparing to go for our second try.
I pray for strength and courage on this journey. I pray that God will annoint the doctors that treat you, I pray that he will annoint your uterus and the embryos. I pray that soon you will be holding your own bundle of joy in your hands.
Much love to you and your husband xxxxx
Thank you and I am so glad that you won and praying for your success that God prove himself again for you the second go around be strong, and stand on faith blessings to you!!
Woow… You’re such a strong women. I hope you are going to be blessed with everything you may desire. I’ll pray for you, promise. Please keep being that strong and couragous. I’m sorry for my English, I’m a French speaker but you have all my support. Kisses from Belgium! x
Vous remercier cher pour vos prières. Je les apprécie tous, et s’il vous plaît étaler le mot du site donc nous pouvons aider le monde ! !
dear Cora,
I am truly blessed with your blog. Thanks for sharing your struggles, life and faith. I am a 31 yrs Indonesian, has been married for 3 years without child. I thank God for giving me a very wonderful husband, who fear of God and we serve Him together.
Two years ago, the doctor diagnosed my husband to be azoospermia (medical condition of a male not having any measurable level of sperm in his semen, only 2% male population suffer this), which means it is impossible for us to have child naturally. We were so sad and shocked with the result then we searched for second opinion, but the result still the same. We keep on going, having faith for His miracle. We believe that we will have our own babies as what He has promised.
Reading your blog, I discovered that i am not alone, I can find lots of fertility sisters here. Your words, your feelings, your struggles are really ME! Being a mom or having a baby is my childhood dream. And currently I’m working in an international preschool which surround me with lots of wonderful babies and toddlers, also pregnant mommies. I’m sure you know how it feels.
Thanks for being my fertility sister, you encourage and bless me through your blog. I believe I can be as strong as you, and pray that God is healing you as He is healing my husband. Let’s walk this journey together and say 2012 is the year we carry our own babies!
Many love and hugs for you..
Trust me I completely understand having the passion for children and working with children. Continue you to be strong in your walk of faith, and it will indeed come to pass for you. You are not alone we are fighting together, and we are going to win together. Pregnancy doesn’t make you pregnant it’s the same nurture and care that you give your pre-schoolers that makes you a mommy. That kiss before bed, that snuggle at night with a bedtime story. That protection and guidance that you give is what makes you a mommy. I will continue to pray for you and this is our year!!
thanks cora.. it really means a lot for me.. i’m really blessed by a sista who dare to share powerful testimony and encourage people even though she hasn’t won.yet. But I believe you and I will win because we are the overcomers !
Absolutely it’s better to speak out while you are in the struggle then to only talk about what about what God did do!!
Cora,
While you wait on God to do what He does best, know that people like me who don’t know you are praying for you….
Thank you for your prayers..
Simply a smiling visitant here to share the love (:, btw great design and style. “Competition is a painful thing, but it produces great results.” by Jerry Flint.
hi Cora
im a lady aged 25, and im here to tell you that my life stands as a testimony that GOD is ABLE!! i got married in 2011 and well before that, i was told i was never going to have kids in my life, i was devasted, i was worried. i didnt know where to go! some pple told me i should go and seek help form lots of people/places but a time came when i said enough is enough, i decided i was only going to believe the report of God which says Exodus 23:26 “and none shall miscarry or be barren in your land!! i meditated on this verse like a mad person, it didnt take me time to concieve, now we are expecting our first child. i urge you not to dwell on the doctor’s report, believe the word of God only which says nothing is impossible, you are not barren, i tell you sooon you are going to testify,
i really appriciate our doctors but what i can tell u is they are not God, think of Sarah, Rebecca, Hannah and myself, dont stress, i have this feeling tht you are going to be a mother soon, and i tell you what my God has never dissappointed me,
Victoria
How wonderful Victoria. I am so happy that you won this battle. Please take care of yourself, and stay on that scripture and that prayer. It is a blessing to be a mommy period rather it’s through birth or through other vessels. Thank you for telling your testimony, as I am sure it will be proven to be a help to all of our fertility sisters reading. Keep Fight and you will win sisters VICTORIA WON!!
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Wow- I am soooo amazed and proud of all you have overcome, victorious- you have grown all the way up so quickly and truly endured – so sorry I am so far away, I just want you to know I am so overwhelmed by your strength-, whew! God is so good babygirl- can’t wait to see the baby’s pics love you girl- andi
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I may not know and understand what you’re going through but i know i got ya back.You’re in my prayers and I’ll be here when you finally hold your precious son or daughter in your arms. You’re a conqueror through Christ Jesus.keep reaching out to thousands of people out there. God bless you, love u Cora!
Thank you I appreciate that I already have one down so just three to go God willing..
Hey, My name is Tina Marie. I have had PCOS for about ten years, my cycle was irregular and doing its own thing…I moved to AZ and got connected to this Dr and NOW i am having a reg cycle (which means i am ovulating) and I KNOW that God is opening my womb. Feel free to email me so that I can pass on this info to you….Praying God’s Blessing over you!!! Your womb WILL open in Jesus Name!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you that seems to be the prayer exactly that everyone is praying for me I receive it in Jesus name thank you!!
Hi Cora, l read this blog l thought l posted a reply last week but l guess it never went thru… l did write to you about an international evangelist Teresa wairimu she has a ministry for barren women well know for an anointing of healing barren women. Here in Dallas there is a local preacher Mwaka twawagirayesu and her too she was barren went thru all the medical hopes and still didn’t succeed and this evangelist did lay hands on her womb and she was able to conceived. Prophetess mwaka this year gave birth to twins for a total of 5 children and Evang. wairimu was in dallas area and l rem. Mwaka asking her to lay hands on her she is content with 5 children and the crowd laughed. lm just encouraging you ur breakthrough is at hand sister. l know that the abundant life He promised doesn’t pertain to one specific thing dear it pertains to all things. Embrace yourself sister and know this one thing be ready for l know Jesus is about to amaze us. He will do it for all the women who have posted here as struggling so as ALL the GLORY will be HIS. You all will be living testimonies to men that not surgeries, not medicine, not a human being but GOD did. l didn’t say surgeries are bad, never implied medicine is bad lm only reinforcing on how GOD does supernatural stuff. You Cora and all the other women above will tell us of how perfect He will execute it. Again prepare yourself because He will do BIG things you will need room. I’m touching and agree with you…it will be done by God. Put a smile on your face today. thanks sister and may your strength be renewed every hour.
PS**** English is my 3rd language. l may have misspelled or written in a different way but l hope you get the message *****
To God be the glory for her being able to conceive that is an aboslute blessing from God and I know He will bless me and all my fertility sisters…Blessings to you!!
Hello my beautiful sisters in Christ & Precious Jewels in the KINGS Crown.
WOW, how amazed I am to read your posts. Cora, you are a courageous young lady to even consider the hearts of others as you battle infertility. I am 42, single, never been married, no boyfriend, no children, but you know GOD IS A GOOD GOD!
As I sat reading some of your posts, I was just amazed at the movement of God taking place. Cora, you are a minister in your own right. It has nothing at all to do with Bishop and Lady Jakes, because God equips each of us with gifts not based on mama, daddy, grandmama, and grandpa, but according to his purpose. Therefore, each time you post a reply, a move of God is taking place. Continue allowing God use you.
I challenge each of you to exercise your faith in God. His word tells us in (Psalms 37:4 NIV) “Delight yourselves in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
I do not have children, and although I have the desire, and as much as my faith has been tested and tried, I will not give up HOPE in Christ. (Isaiah 40:31) “But those who HOPE in the LORD will renew their strength.” You have to know deep down inside whose you are. If God said it then I believe it. Jesus promised…..that’s all you need to remember is that Jesus promised….wait and expect him to fulfil the promises found in HIS word. Don’t lean unto your own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5).
I work with children on a daily basis. That being said, I feel like right now my purpose is to nurture those that I come in contact with daily. I have been blessed by God with (2) handsome nephews who are anointed men of God at the ages of 24 & 20. I COUNT IT ALL JOY to have the opportunity to co-parent with my sister Gwendy. She had Brandon at the age of 16 and Blake @ 21. A young, single, mother who could have given up, but through it all, we have been blessed with precious gifts from God. I love my nephews and wouldn’t trade them for anything.
I admonish you to HOLD FAST TO YOUR FAITH IN AN ALMIGHTY GOD. If he promised it to Sarah and Abraham….surely he can do it for you. Don’t give up, go through, hold on. A MOVE OF GOD IS ON THE WAY! HALLELUJAH!!!!
Thank you Ruby to God be the Glory, and may He continue to use you to ministers to other!!
Dear Cora,
I was diagnosed with infertility at age 34. It is a pain that most people do not understand. My mother believes that I should just be happy for my sister who just delivered her 4th child. I am happy for her. I just really looked forward to being a mother. I really enjoyed reading your story.
Aww Letitia I completely understand sometimes people who are not battling infertility can be insensitive to your desire. My sister has two children I was happy for her when I found out she was pregnant with my niece but as soon as we got off the phone I burst into tears. It’s human for you to be happy, but hurt also because you long for that. Please stay encouraged you are not alone I don’t know what God has for you, but it’s powerful because you are in the storm you have been chosen to battle because you are worth the victory.
Wow, Letitia your words brought tears to my eyes. I am in the same situation. I am 33, newly married, and battling infertlity. I waited for my prince to find me and God finally sent him to me, but now I can’t have a baby. This is one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with. I have dreamt of being a mom for as long as I can remember. I am going to all of the baby showers of friends and family and I am happy but I look at pictures and I have a very sad look in my eyes even as I smile. I am right there with you. Everyone asking when are you getting married then it goes to when are you having a baby..it breaks my heart. I am praying for you as I pray for myself that God’s will be done. All things are possible with Christ. Continue to pray and He will reveal to you what he has in store for your life and your life as a mother. Don’t give up. God Bless You!!!
I couldn’t have said it better myself Kay. God has not forgotten you Letitia begin to speak to your womb begin to command that it be open, and it lines up with God’s promise that your body is already healed. Please keep your head up God has not forgotten about you..
Thank you so much for sharing your story and creating this blog. There are good days and there are bad days, but it helps so much to be connected to others that can understand what it is like to deal with infertility. I too am going through fertility treatments and expecting that God will give me a child whether biologically or in other ways. I am staying encouraged. My husband has 2 children from a prvious marriage, our relationship is very strained for many reasons I can’t really understand. But, I ask God daily to move in our lives and marriage and for His will to be done. Some days I wake up and I am crying all day long and other days I awake and I know that I’m walking in my destiny. I just look forward to the day God will bless me to do the one thing I have dreamed about since I was a little girl and that is be someone’s mommy. God Bless
Dear Kimmie,
Infertility is a hard thing to go through in any marriage. Try to stay strong and commit to enjoying your marriage, and not on having a baby. Sometimes we get so consumed with the promise of God that we let go of the promise He has already given. Infertility can bring a marriages fun intimate moments to a halt, and you end up only having intercourse when you are trying to get pregnant. I would recommend you guys going away for a stay-cation. Doing date nights enjoying each other. Marriage is not a business, but it’s supposed to be a shared partnership of love and understanding. Be Blessed I hope this helps.
Numerous failed IUIs and IVFs, we went through the same. The many years of grief turned to a joyful journey when Ida joined our lives in 2011. When we received the papers from the adoption agency about Ida in July 2010, we did not have any idea what to say ‘YES’ or ‘NO’ to Ida. The same Sunday we were sitting in the Potters House, and your dad came straight to us from the pulpit, pointed his fingers towards us and told us ‘You may be thinking of making a decision today. Say yes to that’. We went home and said YES to choosing Ida. She has been with us for more than an year now. God healed her and taking my family through a wonderful journey. Your dad’s messages change us everyday.
What a beautiful story and thank you so much for sharing. So glad you won your battle may God continue to bless you and your family.
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hello Cora,
I have been inspired by your blog and wanted to pay it forward by nominating you for the Liebster Award. Follow the link and instructions to keep the love and encouragement flowing.
be blessed,
Lisha
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Thank you that’s very sweet I appreciate it!!